At some point in our lives, we all encounter a bully. Bullies come in all shapes and sizes. They are typically easy to recognize by their fear tactics, put-downs, manipulation, anger and physical attacks to intimidate their victims. They may be surrounded by people who receive power through their association with the bully.
Every time a bully is successful at intimidating someone, they receive energy through the fear they create in their victim. This energy power convinces them that they are right in their treatment of other people who they consider as inferior. The more success they have by threatening people, the more they feel entitled to keep up these actions. They also attract more people who feel less than, who are also afraid of the bully but decide to join with them for some protection against the actions by the bully.
To stand up to a bully takes massive self-confidence and inner knowledge that the bully has no control other than what people give up to them out of fear. Bullies derive great pleasure from the control they exert over people. When a person stands up to them and refuses to be cowed, the bully usually tries even harder to make them feel fear. Standing strong disturbs the bully’s expectation of intimidation. It shakes their confidence. They don’t have the skills to respond to courage.
Deep inside the bully is a person who has been deeply wounded, usually as a small child. A parent might have been a bully and acted as a role model for the child. Most children don’t come into this world as a bully. I believe it is a learned response to uncomfortable conditions in the home. It comes from a reaction to needing to feel some control in their life.
Hurt people hurt people. The bully’s ego has been so damaged, they strike out at anyone who they perceive as weaker than them. There is no logical manner in which to deal with a bully. Physical combat with a bully may or may not work to get them to leave someone alone. To keep engaging with a bully only adds to their power. If their intended victim walks away, the bully calls them a coward, as if that is the worst thing to describe them.
Standing strong is a good defense against bullies, if the inner fortitude is there to back up the actions. Walking away and disconnecting from them as much is possible depending on the situation. Giving in to their demands or intimidation never works and only prolongs the manipulation. If physical harm exists, it is best to allow the police or other authorities to step in and take control of the situation.
( The image of the sword above can be used to cut the cords and attachments from a bully. In your mind, sweep down and around your body, cutting and clearing the energetic attachments placed in you by other people. These attachments are used by people to suck away your energy. They are also methods of control. They do not serve your highest good in any way, shape or form.)