REMOVING THE PROGRAMMING, Part 2
Wow! I just realized a connection between being told by my father, “don’t get mad, people won’t like you” and hearing my husband say, “I don’t like you”. And it only took me 58 years to put the two together. Did my father’s prediction come true? No, I don’t feel that happened. What I get from this new awareness is that my father’s decree of “people won’t like you” and the fear he instilled in my little girl heart, was still keeping me from expressing my anger. That is, until the huge argument my husband and I had that led him communicate his distaste for me. My anger erupted and flowed from my mouth in a volcanic torrent.
I was undeniably in touch with my anger during that argument. I was able to convey my opinion in a rather colorful manner with a loud voice. Lots of yelling and swearing! As our arguments rate, it was a 12. One of our worst ever, it was my tower moment as my world came crashing down around me. I stepped out of the rubble and began my journey of self-rediscovery through a landscape of broken dreams.
One of my lessons during my recovery phase was Forgiveness. I went through a lot of processing on this grace. Much of my recovery involved healing my heart. A heart cannot heal when it is full of anger, resentment, revenge, judgement and fear. I worked hard to resolve these undesirable sentiments. I looked for ways to replace them with universal life truths. There are two that I discovered that always work for me. One is that everything happens for a reason. The other is you are right where you belong. These two truths explain just about anything and with this information, removes the need for any of these emotions to be held in the heart.
These two truths work in tandem. When everything happens for a reason, it removes the need to place responsibility on anyone. If someone hurts your feelings, the question is not why they did it. The question is what is the lesson here? What am I supposed to learn from this experience? The person who hurt your feelings is most likely the catalyst the Universe used to teach you something you needed to learn. If you are always where you are meant to be and an incident occurs, ask what the experience is trying to teach you. If you go around asking why things keep happening to you, guess what? Things will keep happening to you until you learn the lesson.
We are programmed to ask why things happen to us. We are programmed to be desolate when a loved one dies. We are programmed to believe in “happily ever after”, that you must go to college to be successful, and “you’re nobody ‘til somebody loves you”. The truth is that things happen for us so we can learn and evolve as souls.
I am so sorry I got off on a tangent in this post. I didn’t write about forgiveness as I had planned. This information that came through from Spirit is needed for the inner work of healing our heart. At this point in time, it is very important that we work to heal our hearts of emotional pain and our negative feelings. A returning to love will assist our Mother Earth in healing herself.
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